“Recently, I was talking to my financial adviser on the phone…
when he asked me a question about our retirement planning that I couldn’t answer. I conferenced in my wife and in the next few minutes I realized something important about our marriage. When she answered the phone, I said, “Hey, Sweetheart,” in an upbeat loving voice.
“Hey,” she replied in an equally loving voice, and within minutes we had the issue resolved. We hung up satisfied with the solution and happy with each other.
Days later, I was still thinking about that call. It occurred to me that sometimes when we talk to each other, my wife and I sound like we’re employees of the company we call ‘Our Family’, a group that includes my wife and me and our three busy teenagers. We’re just taking care of business – rushed, matter of fact, kind of unaware of how we sound to each other. But having that conference call with our financial adviser made me more aware of how I think we should sound when we’re talking to each other. [Read more…]